One of the biggest characteristics of the expatriate experience, particularly being a continuous expat, is making friends over and over again. You move, you get used to where you are, you meet people you like, develop friendships, and get settled. Then, before you know it, it may be time to move again and you start the entire cycle all over. The first days, weeks, or even months in a new place often feel lonely and frustrating as you try to figure out life while also having a small or non-existent support network. Here are some ways you can help yourself create that network and keep creating it as you move from country to country.
First, look at the whole experience of having to make friends as an opportunity rather than a hurdle. You get to explore what’s out there. Your old friends are wonderful of course, but if you have not moved you would have missed out on the friendships you are about to make. You may meet someone who will inspire you to write a book, someone who may partner with you to develop a successful business, or someone who is a great coffee companion. The possibilities for connections are endless. When you look at this continuous experience of making friends as a possibility rather than an obstacle, it becomes a much easier process to start.
Second, manifest. We all manifest what we want whether we are aware of it or not. Start by writing down your concerns and fears about finding the support you need. That will help empty your mind of the limiting thoughts that may be blocking you from moving forward. Next, manifest who you want to meet by writing down what kind of friends you are looking for. What do you want your new friends to have? How do you want them to be? Be fully aware of what you’re wanting out of this experience and go get it.
Third, spring into action. It’s time for you to do your part. Your part is taking the actions possible to get what you want. Go to every meeting and every get together you can to branch out. Yes, it could turn out to be a complete waste of time but you would never know what good you could get out of it if you don’t try. Every meeting out there carries new opportunities.
Life is always offering us new beginnings; it’s up to us if we want to act on them or not. We can choose to stay by the sidelines waiting for things to happen to us or we can choose to be active and seek out every opportunity. Only by experiencing new things will you know what resonates and what’s in harmony with who you are.
Written by: Cultural Business Consulting in collaboration with Margarita Gokun Silver